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Jeffrey Pendleton's avatar

This is an encouraging story, Jane, and one that is 'on target' in my own heart and life! I am grateful to you for writing it and giving your readers an inside tidbit of who you are. That takes courage and you have it. God bless you in your career, Jane.

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Thanks so much, Jeffrey! I appreciate you reading and commenting.

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Jeffrey Pendleton's avatar

It's my pleasure. I appreciate your work.

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Darcy Dudeck's avatar

The pet care business is so important and it shows how kind and compassionate you are. Not everyone is cut out to spend their days loving and caring for our fur babies. I know how much I appreciate my pet care provider and if we lived closer I think my dog would love having you look after her 😊💕🐾

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Thanks so much, Darcy! I know I would love taking care of your baby!

I truly appreciate your kind words!

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DIANA ADMIRE's avatar

We are not what we do…. We are complex humans with many facets!

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Jane Deegan's avatar

So true, Diana! Thanks so much for taking the time to read and commenting

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Jane Deegan's avatar

So true, Diana! Thanks so much for taking the time to read and commenting

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DIANA ADMIRE's avatar

Oh my…..I get you.

My hairstylist is a life saver, she listens advises and is a dear friend.

And as far as pet sitters goes, I wish I had one.

We don’t go anywhere because I hate leaving our pets alone.

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Thanks! I always enjoyed getting to how my clients, and our conversations almost as much as doing their hair! It’s touch leaving pets alone. We’ve had a trusted pet sitter stay overnight with our dogs (we have one now). We schedule a sitter before making vacation reservations.

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Sandra Pawula's avatar

Jane, You've had a very interesting life! I love your focus on people as a hairdresser and then on pets as pet sitter. I find it's very hard to completely let go of these deep insecurities, but we make progress year by year. I love how you celebrate your progress at the end of this piece.

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Thanks so much Sandra for reading and "seeing" this post. I'm blessed I've had those careers. I still have that pull to write

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Carole Roseland's avatar

I’ve met a few hairstylists who were wiser than most folks and also great psychologists. It’s a hard job pleasing everyone, but it’s also rewarding to make someone feel good about themselves. Maybe someone needs to do that for you? As for pet sitting, you are certainly doing God’s work, and I’m sure the pets and their owners appreciate it, at least most of them!

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Jane Deegan's avatar

I felt appreciated by clients when I do hair then or now. It was usually comments from non clients. What I do doesn't feel like work most days. The administrative part does though as my business is growing and I'm stepping back a little more there's more of that and less walks for me anyway

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Jane Deegan's avatar

It is hard making everyone happy. I was always picky about my hair so I expected those standards from everyone. You hear it all behind the chair. All good. I loved it and somedays I miss it

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Henny Hiemenz's avatar

We’d hire you for our doggos in a heartbeat! And fwiw, I got those comments about a “real job” quite often in my previous career.

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Awww thanks!! What was your previous career?

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Henny Hiemenz's avatar

I was a college football coach. People would be like, so what do you do the rest of the year? Uh…go to work every day like I do during the season 🤣

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Oh wow. I don't think people really get what's involved with that.

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Elsie-Beth S.'s avatar

If we treated a friend like we treat our self, we'd have words.

As I am pondering my next career move I find myself minimizing everything I have done in the past. It's as if I have done nothing in my 30 years as a working adult, and I'll have to rely on someone to hire me to do something that requires no education or experience, because clearly my existing education and experience are not worth anything.

Thank you for sharing your struggle.

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Thanks Elise for reading and commenting. I'm sure you have job experiences that you don't realize you have. I get that though. What type of work are you looking into?

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Elsie-Beth S.'s avatar

I worked "for others" all my life, mostly in Academia. I like students but I am so over Academia. I want to do 'something else'. I'm restless. Something with people, something good, something with community - I have SO many ideas.

But I have no idea how to monetize or implement any of my ideas - not the first clue. And I've got to eat.

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Jane Deegan's avatar

I hear you with the ideas and where to start!! That's awesome that you have so many ideas. You will find it.

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Elsie-Beth S.'s avatar

Thank you! I figured I'll start with writing - and community. The rest will come. I'm the sociable sort. One day someone will see what they missed out on all along.

I did chat with lady on a cruise ship one time: Her job was to tell the history of the places we were getting ready to go to. I told her that my big regret in life was that I didn't know her job existed. I wanted her job. She assured me that I had all of the necessary skill to do her job. I like people and many people like me. I'll find something.

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Keep writing and the rest will come

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Jane Deegan's avatar

That's awesome! There are jobs we don't know even existed. What a cool job she has!!

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David Angel's avatar

There is no kinder business under the sun. Godspeed!

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Thanks so much, David!

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Lori K's avatar

Sending virtual hugs 🫂

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Thanks so much my friend. I'm ok. I'm figuring things out

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Lori K's avatar

I have all the faith in the world that you’ll figure things out. Here if you need anything in the meantime!

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Thanks, Lori! I’m good. What I wrote is nothing new. Processing 50 some years haha

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Lori K's avatar

🙌🥰🙌

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Holly's avatar

We have to unlearn all that we have learned up to this point. So difficult I know. One foot in front of the other. Keep moving forward.

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Exactly Holly with unlearning negative false beliefs and standards. I do this in a nanosecond and don't realize I am. So much what we can think are lies and our own interpretation

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wildflower's avatar

You don’t have to defend or prove yourself, Jane! You are a stunning, brave, strong, creative woman!! Life is not about degrees. I think you’re a winner if you do what you love. You do! So you are the winner!!

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Thanks so much!! I think finding our own paths is what finds us a winner! So many years I saw it another way. We need to embrace our own unique gifts. It's a process

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wildflower's avatar

Absolutely.

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