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Jane Deegan's avatar

Thanks so much for your restack, John!

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Preston's avatar

Finding the right balance is key. I know I am prone to giving way more of myself to others when I honestly should be focusing on myself. It’s kind of like unsolicited advice except maybe a little less toxic. If you can catch yourself doing it and maybe find a middle ground, I think that’s progress for everyone. Great read!

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Thanks so much for reading and kind words. I agree it is about balance and finding the middle ground

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Charlotte Pendragon's avatar

For me, it’s not why do you feel the need to rescue? Instead, it’s why do you feel the need not to rescue? I can’t help myself, I’m a sucker for ever lost animal.

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Jane Deegan's avatar

I am too Charlotte! Especially animals!

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Thanks so much for reading and commenting. I truly appreciate it

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Sandra Pawula's avatar

Jane, I strongly relate to your story and your conclusions as a person who suffers from hyper-responsibility. You're so right: We can't control everything, and learning to let go is the best way forward.

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Jenna B. Neece's avatar

This. It’s hard to let go, but sometimes we have to.

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Jane Deegan's avatar

It is Jenna. Thanks so for reading and commenting. I truly appreciate it

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Jenna B. Neece's avatar

Always, Jane. I love reading your work. It’s open and honest in a way that is so relatable. ❤️

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Thanks so much! I always enjoy reading your posts too. I'm currently listening to your cereal fiction. I need to catch up

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Jenna B. Neece's avatar

Yay!

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Yep! As I was driving home from the shore, and I started listening to them :)

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Jenna B. Neece's avatar

I love that! Thank you for thinking of me!

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JFT Beach 🇬🇧 🏊 🧘‍♂️'s avatar

I do this TOO much with people. I always want to fix 'n' help. Learning as a parent that it can have the opposite effect and leave my kids less resilient and resourceful. Work in progress! This is important stuff and I will link to it in my Sunday round this week.

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Thanks JFT! It does change as a parent for sure! It's painful to watch from the sidelines when I want to jump in. It's amazing now much they can figure out on their own. Our son just turned 17 so a whole other dynamic and more letting go. He knows we will always be there for him

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Paolo Peralta's avatar

A lot of wisdom here ❤️

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Thanks, Paolo!

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Jane Deegan's avatar

Some things are out of our control. We can try all we can do. There is a natural cycle of life. There is also a cycle for people too. I always think of the movie Ground Hog Day. There are things we can change and others we have no control over

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