I had never heard of Kintsugi-that's very cool. When I was younger, I confess to trying way too hard to be perfect. My ad agency, my daughter, and trying to be so many things to so many people. Exhausting. And unrealistic. Now, I'm a lot more accepting of myself. Maybe age has just beaten me down! 😂😂 But I do think I have earned the right to love and nurture my heart and soul... life is getting shorter and I understand I need to savor them. Good essay. 👍
Thank you! Kinstsugi is newer to me too and I'm still learning about it. It's a whole philosophy. It's hard being so many things to other people, eventually it catches up to us. I'm concentrating on what and who is really important to me. I think with age we have less time for us and that is with ourselves too 😉
You described me before my 40s. Once I set down my perfectionism and embraced my imperfect, messy self, I discovered that who I was was pretty cool. I liked her much better than the person I felt like I had to be. Most of my anxiety went away too.
So beautifully written! I remember the episode well and this is a great analogy with how we mask and mask and mask until we burn out. We are worth unmasking for ourselves and our health thanks us when we do. Love this!
Thanks! I pictured this one day and I was hoping I could somehow connect the two. Your right, about masking. One day we don't want to mask anymore. Maybe it's a middle age thing
I had never heard of Kintsugi-that's very cool. When I was younger, I confess to trying way too hard to be perfect. My ad agency, my daughter, and trying to be so many things to so many people. Exhausting. And unrealistic. Now, I'm a lot more accepting of myself. Maybe age has just beaten me down! 😂😂 But I do think I have earned the right to love and nurture my heart and soul... life is getting shorter and I understand I need to savor them. Good essay. 👍
Thank you! Kinstsugi is newer to me too and I'm still learning about it. It's a whole philosophy. It's hard being so many things to other people, eventually it catches up to us. I'm concentrating on what and who is really important to me. I think with age we have less time for us and that is with ourselves too 😉
Yes age has that effect. At 71 I’m finally too tired to please anyone or care about their opinions. Very lonely on this side, though.
It can be and you can't make everyone happy, just yourself
You described me before my 40s. Once I set down my perfectionism and embraced my imperfect, messy self, I discovered that who I was was pretty cool. I liked her much better than the person I felt like I had to be. Most of my anxiety went away too.
That's great! I feel like I'm transitioning into that now and it's not easy. I need to take my own advice 😉
It's a process, for sure, but totally possible. Are you familiar with Brene Brown's book The Gifts of Imperfection? It was a game changer for me.
So beautifully written! I remember the episode well and this is a great analogy with how we mask and mask and mask until we burn out. We are worth unmasking for ourselves and our health thanks us when we do. Love this!
Thanks! I pictured this one day and I was hoping I could somehow connect the two. Your right, about masking. One day we don't want to mask anymore. Maybe it's a middle age thing
Yeah, that GenX middle age 🙌
Absolutely 💯
It does and it's hard