Married for more than 30 years. My wife is as beautiful and lovely as ever. Oh, objectively I know we are both aging, but subjectively she is the woman I love, and that has never changed. So of course I see the same person even when sick and bed head and not what either of us were like physically 30+ years ago.
I don’t care. I see her, not her shell. I am confidant your husband views you the same.
I’ve definitely been there as well. It’s not easy to stop being so hard on ourselves, but once we learn to have the same compassion for ourselves that we easily offer to others, it changes everything :)
One thousand percent yes to question one!! This is especially true for people with chronic pain or chronic conditions that are managed over time. From a very young age I internalized my childhood asthma as not just a physical illness, but as proof that I was "defective". This led to feelings of worthlessness and low self esteem which in turn manifested in anxiety and panic attacks in my 20s and 30s (full circle from body to mind and back to body). Therapy and meds helped, thank goodness. Some good news is that as we get stronger mentally, there are often physical benefits too. I've also made it my mission to prioritize sleep, which has been really hard the last few years.
I'm sorry you to deal with asthma as a child. That had to be so difficult. I'm glad you were able to get therapy and meds to help. I can definitely relate to the anxiety and panic attacks. I've been there. I need to prioritize sleep too. I'm trying to get to be earlier (not always easy). What works for you?
I think yes, and the way we feel emotionally can affect the we way we feel physically, too. So connected. That negative self talk is sooooo loud and convincing, sometimes. Working hard to stop it with self-compassion, as well as getting outside and moving — or just moving— anywhere you can— is super helpful to me.
So true, Gayle. Self-compassion is so important. I find I give other’s a lot more compassion as grace than I do to my-self. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I truly appreciate it
Are very attractive. I would compare myself . Stopped years ago. Even on days I feel like an old frump . I would trade places with Tracey Wolfson. Ultimate NFL sports caster. 👍
It is kinda funny. I have been sick this week and not been able to train in the gym. It feels like the end of the world. You feel like you will never get better again, never be able to train again. It is crazy how the mind works. I have been a lot better this time round but it is still driving me a bit bonkers. Got back to gym today but just took it easy which again, makes me sad. I know the message is for me to rest and slow down. But it really sucks.
Sorry you've been sick. It does feel like it will never end sometimes. I hurt pulled a muscle in my arm the other and it been 4 days, getting better but I can imagine all the work I did going away. I drive my husband nuts with that. It takes time. Our bodies let us know when they need rest and recover. Agree it's difficult to listen to that. Hope you feel better soon
Thank you Jane. Yes, it is frustrating when you have a niggling injury. You think you have to start again but we don’t. Our body remembers. It is just crying out for a bit of a break as you said. Hope your arm feels better soon too :-)
Can being sick effect you emotionally very much . I know it does me . As for woman sportscasters I am sure they all have a team to make them look like they do . Great article Jane . Hugs and peace to you and family
Jane last three days have been hell . Yet doing some better today . So I am sorry if i missed any of your posts yesterday or day before . Hugs to you have a great thanksgiving
Thanks for sharing your insight, Elaine. I agree it is a slippery slope. Many times, it's just a bad day and I spiral, if that makes sense. All we can do is try. Baby steps for myself.
Married for more than 30 years. My wife is as beautiful and lovely as ever. Oh, objectively I know we are both aging, but subjectively she is the woman I love, and that has never changed. So of course I see the same person even when sick and bed head and not what either of us were like physically 30+ years ago.
I don’t care. I see her, not her shell. I am confidant your husband views you the same.
That is beautiful, Nick! We see the person we love sick or not. That's what true love is. Thanks so much for commenting.
I’ve definitely been there as well. It’s not easy to stop being so hard on ourselves, but once we learn to have the same compassion for ourselves that we easily offer to others, it changes everything :)
Hi Darcy! Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I agree with that so much. I need to practice it more.
One thousand percent yes to question one!! This is especially true for people with chronic pain or chronic conditions that are managed over time. From a very young age I internalized my childhood asthma as not just a physical illness, but as proof that I was "defective". This led to feelings of worthlessness and low self esteem which in turn manifested in anxiety and panic attacks in my 20s and 30s (full circle from body to mind and back to body). Therapy and meds helped, thank goodness. Some good news is that as we get stronger mentally, there are often physical benefits too. I've also made it my mission to prioritize sleep, which has been really hard the last few years.
I'm sorry you to deal with asthma as a child. That had to be so difficult. I'm glad you were able to get therapy and meds to help. I can definitely relate to the anxiety and panic attacks. I've been there. I need to prioritize sleep too. I'm trying to get to be earlier (not always easy). What works for you?
Thank you Jane 🥰. I recently started using a. white noise machine and it's been helping me stay asleep longer.
We have an air cleaner that helps. Haven’t tried white noise
I think yes, and the way we feel emotionally can affect the we way we feel physically, too. So connected. That negative self talk is sooooo loud and convincing, sometimes. Working hard to stop it with self-compassion, as well as getting outside and moving — or just moving— anywhere you can— is super helpful to me.
So true, Gayle. Self-compassion is so important. I find I give other’s a lot more compassion as grace than I do to my-self. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I truly appreciate it
I’m one of 6 sisters. All of whom
Are very attractive. I would compare myself . Stopped years ago. Even on days I feel like an old frump . I would trade places with Tracey Wolfson. Ultimate NFL sports caster. 👍
Had to Google Tracey Wolfson. Lol. It was Taryn Hatcher here that day
That's awesome! A big family like that. Where were you in the birth order? Did you have any brothers?
I had cousins I would compair myself too. Cute, well dressed and they had countless awards in gymnastics and equestrian competitions.
It is kinda funny. I have been sick this week and not been able to train in the gym. It feels like the end of the world. You feel like you will never get better again, never be able to train again. It is crazy how the mind works. I have been a lot better this time round but it is still driving me a bit bonkers. Got back to gym today but just took it easy which again, makes me sad. I know the message is for me to rest and slow down. But it really sucks.
Sorry you've been sick. It does feel like it will never end sometimes. I hurt pulled a muscle in my arm the other and it been 4 days, getting better but I can imagine all the work I did going away. I drive my husband nuts with that. It takes time. Our bodies let us know when they need rest and recover. Agree it's difficult to listen to that. Hope you feel better soon
Thank you Jane. Yes, it is frustrating when you have a niggling injury. You think you have to start again but we don’t. Our body remembers. It is just crying out for a bit of a break as you said. Hope your arm feels better soon too :-)
Thanks so much. You too. We have to listen to when our bodies say slow down. It's feeling much better now. The snow and rain didn't help much
Can being sick effect you emotionally very much . I know it does me . As for woman sportscasters I am sure they all have a team to make them look like they do . Great article Jane . Hugs and peace to you and family
Thanks Mitch for stopping by and commenting. Being sick can definitely affect you emotionally. I hope you're doing OK
Jane last three days have been hell . Yet doing some better today . So I am sorry if i missed any of your posts yesterday or day before . Hugs to you have a great thanksgiving
I saw you posted somewhere else. Please don't worry about it. Take care of you and we will be here!!!
Jane i try to at least stay in touch with people i care about on here . So I feel bad but i was that sick /
Feel better soon
Such great thoughts. So much vulnerability here. Love this one Jane. We need to be muuuuuchhh easier on ourselves.
Thanks so much, Holly. I wrote this so long ago! Almost a year! Ha ha! I can see how my writing has changed. I appreciate your insight as always!
Yes and yes to both your questions!!! It is a slippery slope. I’m loving the change in language to yourself. I need to do that too!
Thanks for sharing your insight, Elaine. I agree it is a slippery slope. Many times, it's just a bad day and I spiral, if that makes sense. All we can do is try. Baby steps for myself.