This reminds me of being a passenger when my husband drives. I'm on high alert, anticipating possible trouble that he might not see, as though I were the one driving. Yet, he drives by himself all the time without incident. We humans are curious creatures. Beautiful poem.
I’m learning to be less hyper vigilant but I frequently backslide, sorry to say. When I’m a passenger and my husband is driving, I sometimes look at my phone or close my eyes. It’s a challenge in trust. Thank you for sharing your insightful poem.
It's a challenge isn't it? My husband the better driver, actually. He drives professionally. I think the way so many drive distracted it's difficult not to be very vigilant
I had my husband do all of the driver training for our son. It was so difficult to let go and trust. I totally get that. I'm much better now.
Yes indeed I can so relate . I have had to really work to let go of control with my two kiddos- as they go into adulthood. Slowly. I am very overprotective but I have made so much progress and my faith has helped me.
I also have this really difficult situation going on- and I have zero control over the outcome (it's financial with fam member) and it's so hard . But I actually used AI for good - I gave it all the scenarios and it helped me create docs for best solutions for worst case to best case. Helped ease my stress
I also- have returned to my faith in a kind God of my understanding - and pray for an outcome that (obviously yes isn't stressful lol) but is best for all /family etc.
pain and struggle does connect me to God more - and control is part of that.
I appreciate our convos too!! I have a horrible habit since day 1 here of answering myself and not the actual person on my post. Ugh! I blame ADHD.
I haven't been getting notifications either. I've heard that from others here as well. Also, not everyone I read shows up in my feed. Sometimes it's days or weeks later.
You paint a perfect visual of the happenings on the golf course.
I can help but think of what it was like growing up. This had me picturing it a little. Mom was at home for a long time. Dad was out working, providing, supporting while mom stayed home cooked, cleaned and attended to her little birds. She eventually went back to work and we became a little more independent when she did. We had sitters for a while. That pretty much disappeared when my sis made it to high school.
But it’s the old fashioned woman stays home, man provides. To a point, nature is the same way. Today is nothing near the old fashioned. Not saying what is right, what is not. Each person, each family, has their issues to deal with. Sometimes, it’s just how people were brought up.
I guess you could've called me a helicopter mother when my children were little. I could not stand it when they were out of my sight. Now, since my car accident with my husband driving, I fret a lot worrying it will happen again constantly on the lookout for something bad to happen.
Thanks so much for commenting and sharing your experience.
It's so difficult to let go when our children are growing up. I don't think we ever stop worrying about them even as adults. Our son is 18 and graduating college next year... one step at a time.
Ai can be a helpful tool for sure!
I hope all works out for you during this time for you. 🧡
This reminds me of being a passenger when my husband drives. I'm on high alert, anticipating possible trouble that he might not see, as though I were the one driving. Yet, he drives by himself all the time without incident. We humans are curious creatures. Beautiful poem.
Yes! Only my husband may feel that way about me! I do feel that way with my son as he is a newer driver.
It's not always easy to let someone else take "the wheel".
Thanks so much for commenting and sharing your experiences with this.
Thank you for bringing it up so eloquently!
Thanks, Trevy! I usually don't share interpretations of my poetry but this one I decided too 🦢!
I’m learning to be less hyper vigilant but I frequently backslide, sorry to say. When I’m a passenger and my husband is driving, I sometimes look at my phone or close my eyes. It’s a challenge in trust. Thank you for sharing your insightful poem.
It's a challenge isn't it? My husband the better driver, actually. He drives professionally. I think the way so many drive distracted it's difficult not to be very vigilant
I had my husband do all of the driver training for our son. It was so difficult to let go and trust. I totally get that. I'm much better now.
Good ideas
Thanks, Trevy!
I can identify with all of this.
Yes indeed I can so relate . I have had to really work to let go of control with my two kiddos- as they go into adulthood. Slowly. I am very overprotective but I have made so much progress and my faith has helped me.
I also have this really difficult situation going on- and I have zero control over the outcome (it's financial with fam member) and it's so hard . But I actually used AI for good - I gave it all the scenarios and it helped me create docs for best solutions for worst case to best case. Helped ease my stress
I also- have returned to my faith in a kind God of my understanding - and pray for an outcome that (obviously yes isn't stressful lol) but is best for all /family etc.
pain and struggle does connect me to God more - and control is part of that.
Beautiful poem and reflection Jane!
So true! It looks like I answered myself instead of you in the comments! 🤦♀️🤦♀️ I keep doing that! Anyway, my reply to you is below.
It’s all good I have trouble with notifications in here and keep missing things never intentional !! And I always appreciate your dialogue!!
I love Substack but like other platforms for technology unadvanced people such as my self I struggle
Don't get me started on PDFs 😂😂😂
I appreciate our convos too!! I have a horrible habit since day 1 here of answering myself and not the actual person on my post. Ugh! I blame ADHD.
I haven't been getting notifications either. I've heard that from others here as well. Also, not everyone I read shows up in my feed. Sometimes it's days or weeks later.
Yes, anyone that’s “knows” us knows its never intentional! lol.
Absolutely 🙃
I realized years ago that control is an illusion. We can't stop destiny. Lovely poem, Jane!
Control is an illusion at times. We can control other things and some we can't.
Thanks so much for reading and commenting!
You paint a perfect visual of the happenings on the golf course.
I can help but think of what it was like growing up. This had me picturing it a little. Mom was at home for a long time. Dad was out working, providing, supporting while mom stayed home cooked, cleaned and attended to her little birds. She eventually went back to work and we became a little more independent when she did. We had sitters for a while. That pretty much disappeared when my sis made it to high school.
But it’s the old fashioned woman stays home, man provides. To a point, nature is the same way. Today is nothing near the old fashioned. Not saying what is right, what is not. Each person, each family, has their issues to deal with. Sometimes, it’s just how people were brought up.
Thanks so much for reading and sharing your perspective.
My mom was a stay at home mom too. She had a career as a teacher but became a stay at home mom (because that's what you did back then)
I'm glad your mom was able to find her independence more.
It's interesting to think nature can be the same way as you pointed out .
It looks like future poem or article ideas 🤔
Thanks again for writing and commenting.
I guess you could've called me a helicopter mother when my children were little. I could not stand it when they were out of my sight. Now, since my car accident with my husband driving, I fret a lot worrying it will happen again constantly on the lookout for something bad to happen.
It's difficult not to be sometimes as a mom.
I'm so sorry about your accident and that absolutely makes sense to worry. That had to be scary
Thanks so much for commenting and sharing your experience.
It's so difficult to let go when our children are growing up. I don't think we ever stop worrying about them even as adults. Our son is 18 and graduating college next year... one step at a time.
Ai can be a helpful tool for sure!
I hope all works out for you during this time for you. 🧡
Worrying for myself is easier said than done.
I like this. Feels light. Akin to a limerick . I don’t think you mentioned Swans mate for life and are monogamous. Rare in any species!!!